Favorites from this week
So, how was the start of October month for y'all? I had some very long clinic days, some not-so-easy patient visits, a shift on labor and birth without anyone laboring, and a local midwife celebration on Friday night rife with talk of vulvodynia, acupuncture, job stress, and historical successes. It was a midwifery-filled week, and it was great. The news this week was pretty great also, favorites below. As always, I only have clips of the full writings - check out the links in the titles for the full stories.Oh, and Happy National Midwifery Week! Check out yesterday's post to share your answer to, "Why midwifery?"...Sexuality on Sesame Street: Learning Womanhood from Child's Play - Judy Brown (Eishes Chayil) at The Jewish Daily ForwardA fascinating look at one woman's perception of another woman on Sesame Street, and the subtle and not-so-subtle ways women's bodies interact with children and learning and being in our society."...The woman was dressed in a halter top and a mini skirt. She smiled brightly, seemingly oblivious to the mortifying fact that her halter top did not fully cover her midriff. And then she began singing the ABC song. She waved her hands in the air as the camera zoomed in on her. Her midriff loomed onscreen.“Elmo,” she said, “Won’t you sing with me?”Elmo sang along. I stared at the lady’s cleavage and then worriedly at my children. They did not seem to notice. Still, who knew what insidious influences were now creeping into their pure minds?And then it happened. The lady with the bare midriff, with the mini skirt and uncovered thighs swayed her entire body. She shook her hips to the right, to the left, side to side, carelessly, suggestively, and all without a shred of embarrassment..."...What Not to Say to a New Mother -- Hospital Staff - Meredith Fein Lichtenberg at Huffington PostA critical look at tone, language choice, and importance of starting from a place of "normal" when it comes to supporting and loving new families. And goodness get those advertisements for formula out of the hospitals."...From an OB, to parents being discharged early after a healthy birth (unprompted, without previous discussion of infant feeding): "Definitely take home some of the formula. You can top him off after each feeding to make sure he doesn't get dehydrated" (which suggests that the baby will get dehydrated if "only" breastfed),instead of:"I'm not an expert on lactation, but if you have concerns about breastfeeding, let me get someone who can help you."See how insidious this is? Each remark alone might be a smallie (the last one is not a smallie), but the cumulative message, over and over is:Things are about to go wrong. You can't trust yourself or your judgment. That feeling of relief that the baby is healthy and in your arms? It's probably just wishful thinking and the rug is about to get yanked out from beneath you.Newborn parents, who, for the moment, are tired, sometimes overwhelmed, understandably confused and facing lots of new stuff, are more vulnerable to suggestion than the rest of us. They need encouragement and support so that they can:
- Learn to take care of themselves and their babies;
- Learn to distinguish "emergency, requiring medical care" from "common sense situation I can handle myself;" and
- Learn to cope with the normal new-parent anxiety.
They deserve to encounter staff who understand their concerns, worries and knowledge level. They deserve staff who don't plant seeds of self-doubt and a culture of fear. We patients pay huge sums of money to be cared for while we are vulnerable -- it shouldn't be "caveat emptor": let the patient beware -- any advice you get may be misguided..."...Spanish Language Virtual Discussion October 15-19"The Parteria y Enfermeria para una Maternidad Segura community will hold a virtual discussion entitled "la humanizacion del cuidado de las mujeres durante los periodos de embarazo, parto, y puerperio" from October 15th-19th, 2012.The discussion will be led by experts in the field from Chile and Puerto Rico. Since the discussion will take place exclusively in Spanish, a working knowledge of the language is recommended.Use the following link to join: http://my.ibpinitiative.org/
...Nellie McKay - Mother of PearlThis has been around for a while, but a friend recently re-posted. Hilarious!